When the end seems near
The returning of one's soul to G‑d at the end of its journey in this world is probably the most profound moment in a person's life. It is for this purpose that our sages prepared a special set of prayers called Viduy, "Confession," to be recited before one departs from this world. These prayers evoke G‑d's mercy, and bring great atonement upon the person.
Viduy reminds us that what really matters is our relationship with G‑d and with our fellow man, and not material possessions or accomplishments. It is a truly powerful message for everyone.
Don't delay reciting Viduy out of fear that it may be a bad omen. Many people have recited the Viduy and gone on to live many long years. In fact, saying the Viduy is helpful for one's recovery, as sincere repentance brings merit to the person and can nullify a severe decree from Heaven.
It is best for Viduy to be recited with a clear mind. Therefore, one should say it before he becomes too weak. If one can't speak, he may say the Viduy in his heart. It's also possible for relatives, friends or a rabbi to come say at a person's bedside.
For your convenience, we've compiled a booklet with the Viduy prayers translated into English. Feel free to download it, print it and have it handy. Download here.
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The Taharah - Ritual cleansing process
The Taharah is a ritual cleansing process in which the body is cleaned and groomed, and water is ritually poured over it. After the purification, the deceased is dressed in special white clothes (called tachrichim), signifying purity and holiness.
This process is done in a Jewish funeral facility by a Chevra Kadishah—lit., "Holy Society"--of dedicated men and women who are committed to ensuring that every Jew who passes on is accorded a proper Jewish burial. They will conduct the Taharah (cleansing of the body), and dress the deceased in the tachrichim, burial shrouds, in accordance with Jewish tradition.
The nearest Chevra Kadishah is in S. Louis, Missouri. Local funeral homes can arrange for the body of the deceased to be brought to S. Louis for the Taharah, after which the funeral process may begin.
It is important that your wishes for a Jewish burial are recorded properly, ahead of time. This form provides an easy, legal way of ensuring your wishes will be honored.
Burial in a Jewish cemetery
We return the body to the earth that is its source. This is our final act of caring, and it is considered a great mitzvah to physically participate in the burial. Ideally, the whole grave should be filled in, by hand, by fellow Jews. Where this is not possible, at least the coffin should be completely covered with earth. At this point, Tzidduk Hadin is recited—a series of verses acknowledging G‑d's just ways even as we confront tragedy. We then recite the Kaddish and the El Malei Rachamim memorial prayer. (Click here for the texts of Tzidduk Hadin, the Kaddish and El Malei Rachamim)
